A Bold Move

I dread this question sometimes. Lately it feels like my only answer is ‘oh we met through my boyfriend’. Which isn’t a bad thing, I know, but it would nice to be the connection sometimes. I chose to separate myself from the rhythm of school mates –> uni mates –> work mates. I sort of went the route of bar work mates –> uni mates that didn’t last because I left –> camp America mates –> work mates –> moved away again … you see the pattern? No? Because there isn’t one 😂. I don’t think the winding path I’ve taken should mean I can’t be that ‘connection’ though.

The more vocal I get about this whole making mates thing the more people reach out to me to say ‘ you’re onto something here Nat, I’ve felt like this‘ or ‘ I’m moving soon and I’ve been worried about this!‘ – honestly it is much more normal than you think, okay it might not feel it when half the people you know are in grad jobs or working for cool start ups that have beanbags instead of office chairs and more socials than actual work days. The most important friendships in my life have been the ones that have appeared out of nowhere. Thats not to say friendships from your childhood or school don’t cut the mustard, because of course time can have a profound effect on the closeness of your friendships, what I mean is that sometimes you just meet someone and think ‘you are sound AF and we should be mates‘ and it might not take long at all for that person to be the Ilana to your Abi.